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35 Modern Dating Rules
Dating is so confusing for so many people that it should be no surprise that the internet is filled with experts who claim to have the answers.
The problem, of course, is that the notion of expertise has been all but obliterated. In the age of social media, all advice is treated as equal – and I can’t emphasize this enough – it shouldn’t be.
You wouldn’t turn to your friend, the schoolteacher, for medical advice.
You wouldn’t turn to your friend, the ad exec, for legal advice.
But EVERYONE turns to their friends for dating and relationship advice. Why? Because everyone has had a love life and offers feedback based on her own experiences (even if she has given up on love or is in a bad relationship).
Imagine a man who asked you out, got rejected, and determined that women were scary and men should never ask out women again. Now imagine millions of men drawing the same conclusion based on shoddy evidence.
That’s exactly what we’re facing when it comes to dating advice for women. Almost invariably, it’s given by other women who have been hurt or burned by men. I have deep sympathy for those women – and for you, if you follow them.
Because the advice you’re getting is not based on what’s most effective (what will work on actual healthy men); it’s based on women’s overreactions to the men’s worst behavior.
This brings me to an article that was forwarded to me this week by a friend, called 35 Modern Dating Rules. The vast majority of them are sound and uncontroversial: don’t keep score, don’t have sex too soon, pay attention to values. But there are some things in this crowdsourced wisdom that make me scratch my head. Here are a few that may be funny but lack nuance – which makes for bad dating advice:
After age 28, no roommates. — Andrea Nice
Indeed, no roommates is an easier situation than roommates. And yet – where did the arbitrary age of 28 come from? Did anyone bother to consider how expensive it is to live in a city? Do you know that working from home and living alone can get a little lonely? This “no roommates” rule might have made more sense 20 years ago, but today, I think we should have a bit of grace for people who share expenses and want companionship.
Get to the meet as fast as possible. Do not waste endless hours texting/messaging. — Molly McGlynn
This is among the most popular dating advice given by “experts.” Here’s why it’s not ideal: swipe right, text once, meet a stranger for coffee. That’s the way MOST people date. My question: how’s that working for ya? Lots of flakes, right? Lots of bad blind dates, right? Yeah, that’s what happens when you swipe on a face and try to meet as soon as possible. The man has no investment in you, you have no built-in trust, and you have not communicated in any meaningful way prior to meeting. You want dating to be soul-sucking? Meet strangers ASAP. Want it to be fun? Only go out with guys who have demonstrated in a few days of texting and a good FaceTime call that they’re worthy of your time. Problem solved.
Before the end of the first date, ask if they are registered to vote. — Karen Crouch
This is another example of how our fearful, short-attention span society thinks dating should go. “Interview him! Ask him about his dealbreakers! Discuss his red flags! You have 90 minutes to figure out if you’re wasting your time!”
Sorry, but that’s not the best way to date. You wouldn’t want a man to ask on the first date if you like cooking or like giving oral sex (two things that many men would appreciate in a partner). But why shouldn’t he ask? Isn’t it important for him to figure out right away if you’re aligned? Of course not.
Dating is not asking a bunch of questions on the first date to discover what’s wrong with him. It’s about going out for dinner without any agenda whatsoever and discovering at the end of the evening if there was sufficient comfort, fun, and attraction to necessitate a second date. That’s all.
If they won’t try to read your favorite book, how will they try to love and understand you? — Melody Gilpin
My wife did read my favorite book – The World According to Garp – at some point. But I can promise you that even if she didn’t, she’d still be my wife. This is yet another example of our mass societal narcissism that implies your partner has to be into all the same things as you. He doesn’t! My wife has never played fantasy football! I’ve never seen Dave Matthews Band! Somehow, we’ve made it 17 years.
Now, just because I’m saying these are dubious ideas doesn’t mean you must agree. But I will gently point out that the above rules were all created by women. No men were consulted. And if you want to date men, that matters.
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