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3 Women Found Great Boyfriends Fast
If you’ve ever felt like the clock is ticking, or that all the good men are taken, or that you’ve wasted enough time on the wrong guys… I want you to read this.
I have a terrible business model; if I do a good job, I lose a client forever. I’m proud to say I’ve lost thousands of clients in my career! Here’s the story of three women who turned to me in spring and never have to hire me again:
Elsa wrote in her June application: “I’m frustrated with the current dating scene. I wasted 4 years in the wrong relationship and was just led on and hurt by a man I met while speed dating.”
Less than three months after we started coaching, Elsa had a new story to tell: “I have a sweet, giving boyfriend. I don’t have to do anything and he always makes the effort. He makes plans. He pays. All I have to do is be flirty and positive and he’s happy. The big game changer for me from your coaching was saying no to sex with men who weren’t my boyfriend. He loved the fact that I had healthy boundaries and he stepped up to meet my needs.”
Elsa didn’t get lucky. She got clear. She stopped accepting breadcrumbs and learned to let a man earn her time, energy, and devotion.
Then there’s Cheryl, who reached out in February, saying: “I want to meet my future husband this year. I have been single and dating for 10 years and need to do something differently. And I just started dating someone I like and don’t want to mess it up.”
She let go of a guy she liked — not because he was awful, but because he wasn’t making her happy. She started dating the Love U way. A few duds later, she met Jon. She writes: “He’s smitten with me. He’s open. He’s 100% all in. I never have to wonder how he feels or what he wants. It’s so easy. From working with you, I gained the confidence to drop the wrong guy instead of trying to make things work.”
You don’t need to fix men.
You need to stop trying to make the wrong ones right.
Finally, there’s Maddie, who came to me after an ugly divorce in her mid-40s:
“No more narcissists!” she declared in her application.
Four months later? “I want to express my sincere gratitude for giving me hope that healthy love is actually possible for me. I’ve tried to follow your guidance and trust the process, and so far, I couldn’t be happier with my boyfriend and this new dating experience.”
Each of these women came to me feeling frustrated, defeated, or stuck — burned by past relationships, unsure how to trust their judgment, and tired of wasting time on the wrong men. The common thread in their transformation wasn’t luck — it was clarity, confidence, and boundaries.
By learning to say no to men who didn’t step up and yes to the men who did, they created space for healthy, easy, emotionally generous relationships to unfold.
If you’re ready to stop settling and start attracting the kind of man who shows up for you, apply to Love U today.
You don’t need to fix your love life alone — you just need the right support, structure, and strategy to make better choices and find the relationship you deserve.
Love,
Evan
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* This article was originally published here
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How to Date as a Busy Woman
The other day, I mentioned a few dozen women who started coaching and found long-term partners and husbands who are still making them happy every day.
Shortly thereafter, I had a conversation with Penelope, a private client in her sixties who is struggling to find time for love. While she enjoys the group coaching sessions and finds the success stories inspirational, she isn’t actually dating. Although she knows that’s not ideal, she told me that there are three projects that always seem more pressing:
A backyard landscape renovation
Two adult kids who are currently at home
Enlightenment through plant medicine and meditation
Oh, by the way, Penelope is also a practicing doctor!
So, let’s not minimize Penelope’s dilemma. She IS busy. She DOES have obligations. But more importantly, she’s making choices that involve tradeoffs.
And it just so happens that all of her choices (besides hiring a coach) involve doing something OTHER than dating. That’s no surprise. A new backyard, time with her kids, and the promise of inner peace all, theoretically, should bring her joy.
The problem is that she’s stuck in her OLD model that dating/relationships/men bring PAIN. Well, if that’s the way she sees it, of COURSE she’d rather focus on her ferns than her dating profile. To her credit, she laughed and acknowledged my point.
Penelope finds dating so scary and overwhelming, she doesn’t know where to begin.
This is where we had a mini-breakthrough.
Instead of being petrified at getting attached to a guy, being stuck as a people pleaser, or settling in a bad relationship, Penelope broke her dating process into smaller actions.
Week 1: call my stylist friend to help her buy a few date night outfits
Week 2: book a time with a local photographer and start her e-Cyrano questionnaire
Week 3: finish her questionnaire and have a professional write her profile.
Week 4: watch Love U content about online dating and activate her Match profile.
Week 5: talk to me about all the responses that are now rolling in.
I hope you can see why this is a smart, systematic approach that removes Penelope’s fear and paralysis – and doesn’t ask her to abandon her other important projects.
You’re not going on a 24/7 husband hunt; you’re taking small, decisive actions that lead you to have an active love life. That’s all.
In related news, I got hired by Vanessa to help her find love in 2021. She, too, was a busy doctor, in the middle of renovating an apartment, running for the board of her co-op, and getting another medical certification, all while doing hot yoga 3x/week.
Here she is now:
The other day, I mentioned a few dozen women who started coaching and found long-term partners and husbands who are still making them happy every day.
Shortly thereafter, I had a conversation with Penelope, a private client in her sixties who is struggling to find time for love. While she enjoys the group coaching sessions and finds the success stories inspirational, she isn’t actually dating. Although she knows that’s not ideal, she told me that there are three projects that always seem more pressing:
A backyard landscape renovation
Two adult kids who are currently at home
Enlightenment through plant medicine and meditation
Oh, by the way, Penelope is also a practicing doctor!
So, let’s not minimize Penelope’s dilemma. She IS busy. She DOES have obligations. But more importantly, she’s making choices that involve tradeoffs.
And it just so happens that all of her choices (besides hiring a coach) involve doing something OTHER than dating. That’s no surprise. A new backyard, time with her kids, and the promise of inner peace all, theoretically, should bring her joy.
The problem is that she’s stuck in her OLD model that dating/relationships/men bring PAIN. Well, if that’s the way she sees it, of COURSE she’d rather focus on her ferns than her dating profile. To her credit, she laughed and acknowledged my point.
Penelope finds dating so scary and overwhelming, she doesn’t know where to begin.
This is where we had a mini-breakthrough.
Instead of being petrified at getting attached to a guy, being stuck as a people pleaser, or settling in a bad relationship, Penelope broke her dating process into smaller actions.
Week 1: call my stylist friend to help her buy a few date night outfits
Week 2: book a time with a local photographer and start her e-Cyrano questionnaire
Week 3: finish her questionnaire and have a professional write her profile.
Week 4: watch Love U content about online dating and activate her Match profile.
Week 5: talk to me about all the responses that are now rolling in.
I hope you can see why this is a smart, systematic approach that removes Penelope’s fear and paralysis – and doesn’t ask her to abandon her other important projects.
You’re not going on a 24/7 husband hunt; you’re taking small, decisive actions that lead you to have an active love life. That’s all.
In related news, I got hired by Vanessa to help her find love in 2021. She, too, was a busy doctor, in the middle of renovating an apartment, running for the board of her co-op, and getting another medical certification, all while doing hot yoga 3x/week.
Here she is now:
Those aren’t her children. That’s her boyfriend and his family that’s embraced her.
Whatever excuse you have for not dating may be valid, but that doesn’t mean there’s no room for love in your life.
Love,
Evan
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* This article was originally published here
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What Billy Joel Can Teach You About Understanding Men
If you don’t know anyone from Long Island, the first thing you need to know is that all locals are indoctrinated to love Billy Joel. When classic rock stations in New York would do their Top 500 countdowns on Labor Day, there’d always be 10 Billy Joel songs beating out classics by Led Zeppelin and the Rolling Stones.
Well, after watching the 5-hr Billy Joel documentary on HBO Max, I took a second to reflect on why he means so much to me – and, in turn, what he can teach you.
- It’s hard to escape your past. Billy Joel’s father was a Holocaust survivor who moved back to Europe when Billy was 8. Billy’s entire career is about proving himself to his distant father, and everything else – including love – became secondary.
- Bright, passionate, self-made millionaires tend to work a lot, travel a lot, do not like being told what to do, and do not like compromising. Despite their charisma, they’re rarely great partners because their needs always come first.
- We all come back to love. There’s a reason Billy Joel has written so beautifully about love, why he’s gotten married four times, and why, in his 70’s, he seems to have finally figured out what’s most important in life.
Finally, as a die-hard Billy Joel fan, I want to share the lyrics to one of his most profound songs. Read them closely and you’ll understand exactly how this pertains to you.
An Innocent Man, by Billy Joel, copyright 1983
Some people stay far away from the door
If there’s a chance of it opening up
They hear a voice in the hall outside
And hope that it just passes by
Some people live with the fear of a touch
And the anger of having been a fool
They will not listen to anyone
So nobody tells them a lie
I know you’re only protecting yourself
I know you’re thinking of somebody else
Someone who hurt you
But I’m not above
Making up for the love
You’ve been denying you could ever feel
I’m not above doing anything
To restore your faith if I can
Some people see through the eyes of the old
Before they ever get a look at the young
I’m only willing to hear you cry
Because I am an innocent man
I am an innocent man
Oh yes I am
Some people say they will never believe
Another promise they hear in the dark
Because they only remember too well
They heard somebody tell them before
Some people sleep all alone every night
Instead of taking a lover to bed
Some people find that it’s easier to hate
Than to wait anymore
I know you don’t want to hear what I say
I know you’re gonna keep turning away
But I’ve been there and if I can survive
I can keep you alive
I’m not above going through it again
I’m not above being cool for a while
If you’re cruel to me I’ll understand
Some people run from a possible fight
Some people figure they can never win
And although this is a fight I can lose
The accused is an innocent man
I am an innocent man
Oh yes I am
An innocent man
You know you only hurt yourself out of spite
I guess you’d rather be a martyr tonight
That’s your decision
But I’m not below
Anybody I know
If there’s a chance of resurrecting a love
I’m not above going back to the start
To find out where the heartache began
Some people hope for a miracle cure
Some people just accept the world as it is
But I’m not willing to lay down and die
Because I am an innocent man
Yes, this is a song that was clearly written for a dating coach.
Every week, you tell me how hurt you are, how much you mistrust men, how there’s no point to online dating, and how there are no good ones left,
You’ve decided that you’d rather be alone than take a chance on a new man.
Even though you’re not satisfied being alone.
Even though the next guy you meet has nothing to do with the last one who hurt you.
Even though you know that everything I’m telling you about men is TRUE – that we want to take care of you, we want to be accepted, and we want to have the same fun, trust, passion and companionship that you do.
So every time you bristle against my advice, remember that I am an innocent man.
And so are all the good guys out there who have to fight against your defenses. Your fear. Your pain. Your lack of trust. Your emails about what’s wrong with men don’t hurt me. They just make me want to try harder to get through to you – to show you that there ARE men who can make you happy.
But you can’t meet them if you never go on any dates.
And you can’t meet them if you “hate” dating.
And you can’t connect with them if you’re emotionally guarded.
And you can’t sustain your relationship if you’re not trusting.
There’s a good chance your subconscious beliefs about men lead you to create a push-pull dynamic that undermines all your relationships.
Warmest wishes and all my love,
Your friend,
Evan
P.S. High-quality men don’t want perfection. They want emotional safety. (For real!) I’ll show you exactly how to create it — without losing yourself. 
Save your seat now.
* This article was originally published here
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Why Pessimism in Dating is a Horrible Strategy
The viral article of the week was called “The Trouble With Wanting Men.”
It’s a long and well-written piece about a straight woman who, like most single women, is frustrated with her inability to find a partner.
But if that’s all it was, it wouldn’t have gone viral. There have been way too many thinkpieces about what’s wrong with men, including another one in the New York Times last month that I haven’t even had an opportunity to write about yet.
What made this mini-novella so share-worthy is its lack of self-awareness. The author was married, “opened up” her relationship, fell in love with another man, expected that man to commit to her, and continues to hop into bed with men who aren’t committed to her.
And her big question is “what’s wrong with men?”
It’s so patronizing. It starts from the place that she’s right and everyone else is wrong, and can’t even conceive that she may be the common denominator in her frustrations.
She has henceforth coined the term “hetero-fatalism” to describe her plight.
Talk about a misdiagnosis.
“The men I want are not wanting me badly enough, not communicating with me clearly enough, not devoting themselves to me: All this certainly seems calamitous enough to warrant an “ism.” And if it is an “ism,” the problem cannot be me. It must be men, right? Men are what is rotten in the state of straightness, and why shouldn’t we have an all-inclusive byword for our various pessimisms about them?”
From her writing, the author is clearly brilliant, yet she doesn’t comprehend that a) lots of guys will sleep with you and not want a relationship, and b) there’s nothing wrong with a guy who sleeps with you and doesn’t want a relationship.
The only common denominator is that the author keeps sleeping with emotionally unavailable men and being surprised that they’re emotionally unavailable.
It doesn’t take a dating coach to point this out. If you check out the reader comments, you’ll see hundreds of strangers point out the exact same thing.
While I’m sympathetic to any woman who is struggling with the very real issues of the day: swiping, texting, infinite choice on dating apps, and the reality that 90% of men aren’t worthy, it still remains incumbent upon women to take responsibility for their choices.
- If you choose to open your marriage, you can’t be surprised you fell for someone else.
- If you left your marriage for another person in the poly community, you can’t be surprised that he doesn’t want to commit.
- If you’re attracted to and sleep with the type of man who is more interested in freedom than commitment, you can’t be surprised that it’s hard to find a partner.
Even more than her individual choices, the biggest takeaway I had was how “heterofatalism” is just a horrible life philosophy. In the author’s words:
“One thing heterofatalism reflects is a persistent lack of faith that those we desire will be able to recognize us as commensurately human.”
Wait, so if I don’t think I can spend the rest of my life with you – and by the way, this applied to 300 women before I met my wife – I don’t see you as HUMAN?
Can you see how such language turns men into soulless monsters instead of normal, human beings who ALSO have tortured relationships with their parents and exes and are ALSO confused about how much chemistry, compatibility and commitment they want?
Please, for your sake, stay away from any woman who thinks the worst of men – she may have her valid reasons for feeling that way – but she’s not going to be the role model you need to attract and connect with a quality, commitment-oriented man.
Love,
Evan
Learn to date with joy and confidence
* This article was originally published here
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