I’ve helped hundreds of women find love and get married. Yet, until Saturday, I’d only been to ONE client’s wedding before. Wait: how is that even possible?
- My clients usually get married 3+ years after coaching. If clients hire me for six months, find a boyfriend, and adhere to my advice not to get married for at least 2 years, it’s generally going to be 3 years since we worked closely together.
- I’m married with children in Los Angeles – and my clients are elsewhere. Since I’d only attend a wedding with my wife, I can’t justify calling the in-laws in San Diego and asking them to watch our kids while we head to Minnesota or Australia or Ibiza – all real locations where I was invited to weddings.
- My clients don’t want to admit to everyone they know – much less their new husband – that they had a dating coach. I completely understand this, which is why I never take it personally when I’m not invited.
But this is also why I take it VERY seriously when I’m invited to a wedding. It says that my client is not only comfortable in her own skin but she wants me to share in her glory.
Saturday night, Rhoda allowed me to share in her glory. Here’s what you should know about her before I share a short video from her wedding.
- She had the roughest upbringing of any client I’ve ever coached. Her childhood trauma led her into two bad marriages in her 30s and 40s, after which she gave up on love for a decade to focus on her career, her friendships and her spirituality.
- She reached out to me in 2021 when she was in a good place personally but realized she was missing out on the love that so many of her close married friends had.
- She said during our initial conversation that she felt “like a little kid starting over. I don’t want to perpetuate bad patterns. But I have no idea how to do this.”
Fast forward to the end of coaching in 2022: “Thank you for everything, truly. You’ve helped me more than any therapist ever has and I feel better all the time. Your belief in me brought down so many of my walls, and I became primed to meet a lifetime partner. You are very rare, and among the biggest mensches I have ever known.” If you’re Jewish, there’s no bigger compliment than to be called a mensch!
Six months later, I received this: “Evan, I can’t believe how much I learned from you. I am a different dater. Calm, confident, real, fun, full of life, not a great flirt but definitely better, empathic, sensitive to him while keeping my sense of self and more. He is Jewish, lives in the Palisades, wife died 15 months ago, he found me on Match. He took care of her alone when she was sick with cancer. He is wicked smart, very kind, asks q’s, generous. If it goes somewhere or nowhere, I now know that I can do it, I can get myself into a good relationship with a kind guy. “
This language of hope and empowerment is a coach’s dream and if that was the last I heard from Rhoda, I’d have been thrilled with her progress. But here she was, 2 ½ years later, after her wedding in Beverly Hills.
When I mentioned her comfort in sharing the glory, Rhoda had my wife and I sit at her table even though I’d never even met her in person before! Each time I met a guest, they’d already heard about me and thanked me for helping their dear friend find love.
I share this with you because the only thing unusual about Rhoda’s story is that she chose to tell everyone about us. Overcoming bad relationships, gaining confidence, and finding a great guy? That’s what I expect for all of my clients.
I don’t expect an invitation to your wedding but if you are in your 50’s or 60’s and have felt that love wasn’t in the cards, I hope Rhoda convinces you otherwise.
Click here to get what Rhoda got – happy!
Love,
Evan
* This article was originally published here
